One of the most annoying truths of being human? We’re not in control of much. And no, I’m not being dramatic, just honest. You can plan your life down to the minute, have backup plans for your backup plans, and still get side swiped by a diagnosis, a job loss, a pandemic, or a Tuesday afternoon that just decides to spiral for no good reason.
I got a text from a subscription group this morning (the kind you usually skim and delete), but this one hit differently. It said:
“One of the most challenging aspects of life is learning to let go of control.”
And I swear, my nervous system did a little sarcastic eye roll like, “Oh really? You don’t say.”
Because if there’s anything the last few years of my life have taught me, especially when it comes to health, it’s that control is mostly an illusion. A seductive, addictive illusion that makes us feel safe until, well, it doesn’t.
Here’s what the rest of the message said, and I’m paraphrasing: We fear the unknown, so we try to out-plan it. We cling to control to avoid discomfort, uncertainty, and anxiety. But in doing that, we often trap ourselves. We become so focused on steering the ship through every possible storm that we miss the open water entirely. And maybe the point isn’t to outmaneuver every wave, but to learn how to float. Or something like that.
Enter: The Lucia Light.
Now before you roll your eyes and think, “Oh cool, now she’s going to pitch the light again,” hold up. Yes, the light is part of this conversation, but not in a ‘come buy this thing’ kind of way. More in a ‘this thing helped me not lose my mind’ kind of way. And that’s worth talking about.
The Lucia Light is one of the only tools I’ve found that teaches your nervous system how to actually let go, not intellectually, not by talking about it, but by physically experiencing it. You lie down, close your eyes, and let the light do its thing. No checklist, no productivity hack, no need to do anything “right.” It bypasses the mental gymnastics we’re all so good at and gives your brain a break. And in that stillness, something pretty wild happens:
You stop gripping and overthinking. You just are.
Sounds simple, but for most of us, it’s anything but. Especially when your body has been trained to anticipate danger, or pain, or chaos. If you’ve been through trauma (hi, welcome to Earth), your window of tolerance for uncertainty gets pretty damn narrow. The Lucia Light widens that window. It softens the edges of your nervous system. It gives you a felt experience of what it means to relax, even when your mind is still buzzing.
And it’s not just about feeling chill for 30 minutes. It’s about retraining your body to stop firing the ‘danger!’ alarm every time life throws a curveball. It’s about being in your body, in your breath, in the now, instead of spiraling out about all the potential disasters.
Letting go of control doesn’t mean giving up. It means shifting your focus from what you can’t control to what you can: your breath, your perspective, your next small action. That’s where the power is. It’s in your ability to adapt, to feel, to stay present even when the ground moves.
Give yourself tools.
And sure, you could white-knuckle your way through life, hoping the chaos eventually slows down. Or you could give yourself tools, real, sensory, nervous-system-regulating tools that make the ride a little smoother. That’s what the light does. That’s why I keep showing up for it, and why people who try it walk out saying things like, “There’s joy in there,” even when they came in anxious, grieving, or emotionally tapped out.
So no, you don’t have to control everything. You just need to trust that you’ll be okay, even if you don’t know what’s next. The Lucia Light doesn’t give you answers, it gives you access. To your body. Your breath. Your baseline. And maybe that’s the only kind of control we actually need.
TL;DR?
You can’t control everything. Trying will make you anxious, exhausted, and probably annoying to be around. But you can learn to let go. You can stretch your window of tolerance. And you can do that lying under a light that feels like a psychedelic trip without the drugs. Just saying.
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